Ladies and gentlemen I have found an article that I believe both sexes male/female may find very interesting. This article breaks down the male mind concerning and the male ego. Now some of you will be asking yourselves why is Monica posting about this topic? Well for two reasons. Some of us have significant others that we seldom find ourselves beating our heads against an imaginary force field trying to understand what it is that they are going through and others are right on the fringe of sealing the deal (commitment) and they wind up freezing up on us. Today we are going to figure out a few things about the male mind and that terrible little chip on their shoulder called the macho male ego.
1. The male mind isn’t afraid of commitment – It’s their associations with it
A lot of women I meet think that guys are inherently terrified of being with one person.
This is the furthest from the truth and completely not true. The only reason is because they associate it with losing their freedom, having sexual excitement, being able to pursue whatever they want.
The great news is, that these feelings are entirely within a woman’s control. If you appear needy and desperate for a relationship, he’ll be terrified of them.
If you make him WANT to commit and show him that life will only get more fun when he does, committing to you will only excite him more.
2. Looks aren’t enough to keep the male mind attracted
Men aren’t as shallow as women think.
Though a man might sleep with a woman for her looks, this by itself will never make him look at that girl as relationship-worthy.
3. Men are just as emotionally needy as women
Men like women want a certain amount of affection from a relationship. If they don’t feel like they’re getting it, they’ll be just as hurt as any woman would.
The difference is that men often express their affection in a more physical way than women.
4. Men are just as nervous about starting conversations as women
Believe us, men find it just as difficult to go and start conversations with people they are attracted to as women do.
You can use this information to your advantage as a woman.
If starting up conversation yourself isn’t something you feel comfortable doing at first, your job is to make it as easy as possible for him to approach you.
5. Men’s self-esteem is highly wrapped up in their sexual ability
When men feel sexually rejected, they feel like less of a man.
Even with men in relationships who feel totally loved, if they don’t feel that their woman desires them sexually as much as they desire her, it hurts their pride in a way women can’t imagine.
6. The male mind isn’t good at game-playing
Men are pretty simple.
Women sometimes give them mixed signals and think they are “playing the game” when actually the man often takes it as a sign that she’s not at all interested and simply gives up.
7. The male mind craves VARIETY
Both in your relationships, dating and the bedroom, the male mind is turned on by doing different things.
8. Men are as insecure about rejection as women
The male ego is highly wrapped up in to how he perceives his performance with the opposite sex.
This is why it can take some men a while to pluck up the courage to ask you for a date, even if you think you’ve made it obvious that you want him to ask you out.
9. The male mind appreciates things more when they are earned
This is why men are completely turned off by desperate women. They feel like anyone else could have been in their place.
What they want to feel like is that they earned their place in your life.
That they have proved themselves worthy to having the keys to becoming a part of your already amazing life.
10. The male mind can be programmed with the right language
Men love turning women on. If you want a guy to change his behavior in a relationship, instead of saying “Honey, I would really appreciate it if you did xxx.” try this instead: “It really turns me on when guys do xxx”.
This might sound trivial, but it’s amazing how much hoovering you can get guys to do once they think it turns you on!
When you get inside the male mind in this way, you’ll never be confused about why men act the way they do again.
So what do you think? Where there some point made that you haven’t thought about? I’m eager to know how you felt about this article so please feel free to comment.
- EGO: The Brick Wall Between A Man’s Mind And His Emotions (justblaume.com)
- Relationship Communication Problems – The Crisis in Male-Female Conversation Crying Out For Attention (healthstream.typepad.com)
- How to Open Up to Love – Learning to be Open (nafriniselect.com)
- Throw Away the Key (Series 3 of 4) (pairfectdating.wordpress.com)